Step one: Thoroughly understand your current cost of living 5. Even with carefully planning out your future expenses, something surprising may pop up.

Online dating has grown in popularity to the point where there is almost no social stigma attached to it.

With an estimated 1,000 online dating sites in existence, however, it can be hard to sift through all the options and decide which is the best site.

Ask your attorney when and how it's best to gather this info first, though.4. Your financial well-being should be your top priority, says divorce financial expert and mediator Rosemary Frank.

"Raw emotions will heal and legalities will be completed, but the financial impact of poor decisions, or default decisions due to lack of understanding, will last a lifetime," she warns.

"Therapists who haven't experienced divorce often create false hope," in regards to recovering quickly.

"It's important to have support that's educated as well as therapeutic."2. "I used a criminal attorney and got a poor settlement," admits Christine K. On the other hand, a lawyer who's well-versed in family law could get you a better settlement because she knows the state-law nuances and local judges and lawyers, says Jacqueline Newman, a partner at a boutique New York City law firm specializing in divorce.

"Too many men dodge their financial responsibilities, so waiting for that first alimony check is unwise. Newman says that a client of hers told her husband's boss about his affair with his secretary and ended up getting him fired.

Try to have money available—like ,000—within days. "It not only 'showed him;' it also showed the wife—and their children—what life is like on a lower salary," she says.

Here, real women share what they wish they'd known when they split from their husbands and divorce professionals weigh in on how to combat the most unexpected, yet most common, mistakes they've seen clients make.